Do
you feel your child is difficult to get along and mingle with their peers? Do
not worry, you're not alone.
A
psychologist state, quite a lot of parents complained that their children have
problems in school - both in terms of learning, behavior, and interaction -
when they include children with a level of intelligence above the average.
Why
children often become shy and difficult to adapt to new people (strangers)? Parents
need to understand the importance of developing interpersonal and intrapersonal
intelligence as a capital for the child's social skills. Interpersonal
intelligence is one aspect of intelligence that can be interpreted as the
ability to understand and communicate with others.
Characteristics,
is usually able to empathize, it is easy to understand the feelings, moods,
behavior of others, and able to react accordingly and assertive. For example,
when faced with an angry friend, he did not immediately respond with anger or crying
and sulking, but try to neutralize the situation. It could be he said,'' Why
are you angry? I just borrow your toy, it later turns, huh?'' Or, as he did not
agree with the actions or statements of others, he is able to express his
personal opinion without any emotion, anger, or rudeness.
In
any society, not having trouble and able to build relationships with others,
either with strangers or who had long being his friend. Often these children
become leaders for his friends and to influence others without imposing his
will. Attention shown to others seem far-fetched, it will spontaneously say
hello and ask how the person is making others feel happy.
However,
if a child is difficult to adjust, often anger, rage or sulk. When meeting new
people (strangers), the child is difficult to adjust, tends to impose its will,
selfish, selfish, so easy to get involved in the dispute.
A
psychologist revealed intrapersonal intelligence is the ability to understand
themselves. Characteristics of smart people in the intrapersonal aspects
include responsibility for themselves, able to recognize their feelings, and
direct personal emotion. Intelligent human beings have the intrapersonal
aspects of self-confidence, do not depend on others, and dare to take a
decision. Therefore, they are usually known as someone who can motivate themselves,
always follow what is already a decision.
Interpersonal
intelligence has an important role in their life. Social networks will be
easily established if a person has interpersonal intelligence. Relationships
built up over nature, not based on power or force someone to become a source of
peace and human happiness are essential. Cooperation will be built up, the
problem can be solved, and the stress is more easily overcome because of the intimate
relationship of friendship and warmth.
Similarly,
about intrapersonal intelligence. Intrapersonal intelligence is important,
because people need to equip themselves with the ability to control his life in
order to achieve success and security. That would form the necessary emotional
stability to cope with the pressures of life and the events that are not
profitable.
Basically,
all children have the interpersonal and intrapersonal intelligence. Both have a
close relationship with each other because of personal knowledge requires
sensitivity to others and vice versa. These capabilities need to be trained. If
not, the child difficult to adjust and will have problems in relationships,
both at school and as adults. It will be difficult when he worked for the
working world will always be in touch with others.
To
overcome this, start the communication at home and do activities with their
parents. Communications should make the child independent and self-confidence
so that later on in the environment will be more daring.
Children
who are protected at home and pampered, given whatever was asked, also can make
children less resilient, less rigid. Because, as he relates to others, his
desire not always be met. The child will always be filled with feelings of anxiety
about his ability.
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